The Flip Side

So how many ladies have been invited out by a guy and then was asked to pay the bill, or even her portion of the bill? The person who does the inviting is the person obligated to pay. I thought that went without saying in this day and age, but obviously not. Fellas, you should know better. Stop looking for a lady to upgrade you and you haven't even taken the time to cater to her. Of course, we independent chicas, love to take a man out and treat him to drinks and a nice dinner or whatever the affair. We are very generous when one is deserving. And you do not deserve a reward if the reward is the only reason you do something nice. I've heard the road to hell is paved with good intentions, I believe it. How many ladies have given a man the privilege to come through in a time of need, to handle something you just feel like dealing with; ya know, hold you down? They offer to help and you accept, not knowing you just signed a verbal contract to do whatever, whenever, however they want. Or allow them, as a result of the help to talk to you or behave in any kind of manner? Sometimes, a man wants to take care of a lady and that's a beautiful thing. Just does all the right things because he lives to put a smile on her face. He lives to bring her joy. He craves to please her and in return she shows her gratitude in a magnitude of ways. Yet there is nothing uglier than a man who offers to do somethings, then: a. reneges, b. complains, or worse of all c. expect to get something in return other than gratitude. Let's address one issue at a time shall we? Your word and your balls are all you have...go back on your word and nothing you say from then on means anything. Trust is so fragile, choose your words wisely. We all make mistakes, often say things we don't mean, but don't lie and front or fake. It's whack, just keep it real. Don't speak on it if you can't honestly be about it. Simply keep it to yourself. Show and prove. Actions over words. Now on to the next...dating is a whine free zone, ya dig? Don't offer your services if you going bitch and complain...it's just not hot. So very unsexy. Don't jump out there if you really and truly can't handle it. Hell, don't even offer out of obligation or sympathy if any parts of you don't want to. Better to just not get involved, cuz don't nobody wanna hear nothing about what someone else is doing for them. Especially if the complainer offered the assistance. That too, is a "whack attack." (More on the "whack attack" to come) Now b and c are kinda related. Don't offer your services, assistance or help and then be mad that all you receive is gratitude and nothing tangible. How selfish and just down right rude if you ask me. How dare a person offer to do something and then respond with "what have you done for me lately." Huh, what?!? Or worse yet, guilt trips that lure one into reciprocating in ways they did not expect. You thinking "Thank you," in its sincerest form would suffice; you ain't know you was in debt. Just my thoughts on social etiquette. Just my thoughts.