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Dating etiquette. Wouldn't it be nice if someone taught a class? If you miss an assignment, you are not allowed to move on until the assignment is made up. One would be graded on behavior deemed acceptable or not and the reaction and action to different situations. Instead of advancing to the next grade level, the progress would be rewarded with different sexual treats/favors. How grand would that be? There would a step by step manual on what to do and what not to do. Unfortunately, no manual or class exists and therefore we are cast to the wolves, in hopes of making it back in time for dinner. With all the ways to communicate now a days, it's a wonder how we as people still have a time expressing our true feelings. When dating it's soooooo against the rules of engagement to express true real emotion. The deal is simple and surface. Save all drama, complications, feelings for friends and family. When dating, it's almost like make believe. Two play pretend that the world as we know it is grand. Sure we touch on the usual current events, war, crime, politics, religion, art and the school system and most don't really get past what happen on last nights sitcoms or the playoffs. The point is, it's easy. You gotta know when to say when. You feel yourself falling in like or in love, it's time to throw in the towel. Let it go and move on to the next. We get all dressed up, get all smelling good or sometimes we plucked from the garden of single in our most chill attire. In our most laxed state, one might be under the presumption in a more relaxed frame of mind, the prey is easily hunted. The more mileage between self and familiarity makes the attacker that much more bold. Now when approached properly and the juices get going and all the getting to know each other is well underway, that's when the fun begins. Everyone (hopefully) wants to keep up the great representation. No one wants to appear desperate and weak. No one wants to come across as eager but has to manage to let their interest be known. Balance and patience. One must remain calm and composed but not too cool. You don't want to be an open book but you don't want to be a barrier tougher than the Great Wall. So how is it done correctly? Is there any one path to follow or formula to remember? Oh hells nah, never dat. People are ever changing and so are the rules. One thing that remains is "All is fair in love and war" and "To the Victor go the spoils." Dangerous words but oh so true. Never feel like or act like you are the victim. If you get stood up, then make it clear you found something better to do with your time. Let it be known, you are in control of your life, your fun and your personal pleasure. You wait for no one. Know you place...play your part. Know when to call or not to call or when you are calling too much. Know when to throw in the towel and when you're in too deep. If you cannot tell the difference between the surface and simple from the serious and sincere, you're in trouble. Don't mistake attention and affection for love. Know what's allowed and what's not. Be honest about it. If you're getting all caught up and you don't think your partner is ready to embark on that journey with you, I recommend a different path. If you find, the jokes are always lost in translation and you're get in your feelings more often than normal, chances are it's time to make a move. What do you do? Once you put your truth out there, you are subject to whatever fate wishes. Don't wait until it's too late. The second you notice the shift, confront it. Don't feel it and then let those feelings grow in hopes they will be returned. It makes the blow so much worse when it's not. One will either reciprocate or not. Don't worry about rejection, think of it as protection. The sooner you spill the real, the sooner you get the truth about your part in the play. It's a game and like chess, think three moves ahead. Expect the best and be prepared for anything. When you take the stage, you are the star, let no one steal your show.