Dirty Laundry

Funny how life can change you. Change is the inevitable. Change is life and as life progresses and one grows old you pick up things along the way. People, memories, songs, dirt, secrets, lies and hopefully some real decent honorable things as well. It's beautiful to reflect on all the positive things, good times and happy memories. It's quite pleasant when a smell or song triggers a memory that makes you smile. Even though, there are millions of methods for dealing with problems, stress and despair. There are all types of ways to calm the body, soothe the mind and relax the soul. I believe in them all and am a strong advocate for alternative relaxation therapies of all sorts. However, sometimes...just sometimes, it's OK to say F*%$ IT! And mean it. I have grown to a place, well actually, I have always done this. I ride the situation out to the very end. I pray and handle it, until result remains that I just must separate myself. Once I detach, I like to make a clean sweep. I like to make a cool getaway. If it has come to the point that I must no longer be apart or involved in any one thing. I cut the ties. I don't burn bridges, but once it's over, it's over. I don't believe in dirty laundry. I don't believe in looking back. Sure, when it comes to knowing your roots and your background and all that jazz, yeah, look back...it's a blueprint or can be a blueprint, to where you might be headed. Yet, in the sense of relationships and even some friendships. When you outgrow a situation and or a person; it's OK to move on with your life. So many people feel you have to be friends after a break up. No you don't. Why carry all them bags? Now if the breakup is simple enough and no real harm was done during the course of the relationship, then by all means, be friends. It's a case by case basis; to be friends or not friends with an ex lover is totally dependent on the people involved. If one party does not wish to communicate with other after it's all said and done, that's OK. Again, one can cut the ties and not burn bridges. When someone does you wrong, you must forgive. Yes you must! But forgiveness does not mean that you have to know that person and constantly be reminded of the wrong they did. There is no reason to keep a person in your life if they do not lift you up in any way, shape or form. The knowing becomes stagnant. Growth and Change, go hand in hand. So if you keep a person around and don't learn anything from that person, you are not growing. They are not stimulating development, they are hindering it. The time shared with that person who is not putting anything into your mind, body or soul, could be spent enriching your inner being. Think about it. Is it really necessary to remain friends with an ex, if you really don't want to? Define friendship and then ask yourself, how many people in your life serve a purpose and how many people are just sucking the energy out of you?