Everything Happens for a Reason

We often times feel like we have been tricked, baited, persued and then left out to dry. Do not feel bad, do not weep. Do not be weary or confused. Understand that it was necessary. You may feel you have endured enough heart ache for one lifetime and yet repeatedly you feel its shattering time and time again. You may feel as if love hates you. This is not true. As a matter of fact, it couldn't be more untrue. There is something you are missing. Some piece of the magical puzzle that you are simply not seeing. Can't find. My advice; search within yourself. The person who baited, tricked, persued may not have been the one you are to be with. Perhaps that person was sent to help you heal. Maybe they were sent to bridge the gap between you and the next one. Perhaps they were sent to teach you something or open your eyes to things you refused to see. Maybe they were sent to loosen you up a bit or help you slow your roll. There is always some good, even when it's all bad. Even when it's lower than low and then beneath that. Even when you are at the bottom of the bottom and then fall under that...someone somewhere is waiting for you to get up and get it together. Someone is waiting for you change clothes and get that dirt off your shoulder. Someone is waiting to bump into you on a corner, ask them for directions; meet you at a friend's cookout. While you sit around sad and in deep deep thought about why this guy doesn't do this and why he doesn't do that; while you ponder over "what happened" and "what changed," "is it me," "what did I do?" Someone is admiring your fabulousness. Someone wonders why you so prim and pretty, is so sad? They see thru your toughness righ to the core of your beautiful soul and eclectic views...someone is confused at the thought of you not being taken. Someone wants to make you smile and make you giggle. Someone wants to protect you from harm. They are watching from a distance. They ponder moving in, but they hear your tears, even as you tuck beneath great shoes and have them hidden behind your facade of perfect makeup and killer outfit. You are so well put together, so cultured, cool and smooth...but there is something there, a few scars, some war wounds. It proves you've lived...some experience there. So cry not, young girl. Someone is waiting to slip and fall and spill their coffee all over your new outfit. They are waiting for you to look up from tripping over the curb and gaze into their eyes. They are waiting to make you smile and help you learn. They are waiting for someone who will not judge or belittle them, rather uplift and support them. They are looking for you. It may take y'all a lifetime to actually connect, but that's ok...We're on HIS schedule...not our own. You may feel that because you endured some pain and struggle, it's all smooth sailing from here. Keep your faith. Smile in the adversity...all is not lost. It may suck, it may hurt. You may "put your gaurds up." It may keep you on your toes for a while but that's ok. What you don't want to do is carry baggage from the past...it interrupts the flow of your future. Be sure to conquer your demons before venturing on new journey. Be sure to clean house before taking on a new conquest. You want not to lose what could be your greatest gift. Surely there will be times when you want to discuss your past. Sometimes you just want to get it out and have a sounding board to just bounce ideas off. Sometimes you need to rant and rave and babble and at those times it's ok if you just want someone to listen. Do not keep concealed what will harm you spirit. Communication is the foundation to any healthy friendship. Be honest, be open. Be willing to listen just as much as you talk and be open to talk just as patient as you are when you listen. It's a two way street. However to do not shade the sun with negativity and despair. Do not be so lost and wrapped up in things you cannot change, and then let those feelings cloud your judgment towards anew. There are pains, strife, trails and turmoil that will shock you. Throw you off you axis. Your mission in life, is to pick up the pieces of your broken heart and keep it moving. Continue to get your mind right and focus not on the negative. Be a believer, be a mover and shaker, be a dreamer. Be whomever your God saw fit for you to be. Fear not love, even when it hurts, especially when it hurts. Someone, somewhere is trying to show you something. Open your eyes to receive it.