Give me an "A"

Attention, Availability, Affection and Appreciation. One must have all four to ensure a successful seduction. Attention is crucial for ladies and gents alike. You have to make the object of your desire feel they are just that. You have to flirt. Make them feel wanted. Make them feel there is no other you crave as much. The need for them rivals hunger. You have to extend a part of yourself in order to receive even a piece of someone else. You have to call and when they talk, you have to listen. Listening is crucial, because there is nothing worse than someone asking you about things you already told them. So listen and take interest. Take notes, if you have to. Do whatever it takes to make them feel that you genuinely care about them, their needs and their wants. Become familiar with important facts about family, careers, education, health and past relationships. All of which help you better know and understand your subject. Now once you have become a regular "new" message in their email and they gotta few voice mails to play on repeat; once y'all have developed y'all own language for texting and had a few long late night chats, now can you move on to the next...Availability. One cannot provide the necessary amount of attention if you are too busy. Workaholics better find a way to work it out. Those of you all focused and driven, better learn to manipulate time. Find a way to make it happen. Nothing can flourish with weak roots. You have planted the seed and now it's up to you to keep it growing. You have to take those few teeny, tiny seconds and send that sweet text message. You have to take time and remember to make that phone call. (No drive by's please...more on "Drivebys" to come) You have to step out your schedule and carve out moments just for them. And if you're a real professional and your job is your life, cut the cell phone off when y'all all together. If you hustle, cut the cell phone off when y'all together... Ladies, if you know your gurl(Z) is going through something and she going be calling and textin and wanting to rap you up while you with your boo; cut the phone off. He don't want to hear y'all squawking and that early in the game he only has a minimal interest in your girl's drama...he trying to figure out your drama. Get up in your head, not listen to complaints from Lisa and Jane. It's damaging to your image. You look like you are the one with issues, even if they ain't yours. And it's just not attractive. Ladies, I understand you're so independent and nothing comes before God, Family and friends. Between staying in shape and partying like a rockstar, try just try to squeeze time in between shopping and pedi's. Once you make yourself available to provide, watch how in this stage it grows to an even exchange of affection and appreciation. I'd originally set out to break them down as their own certain entities, but at this stage in the game, they pretty much go hand in hand. Like respect and honor...there cannot be one without the other. Affection, sweet and innocent yet triple ex rated. Tempting and taunting, teasing and tickling. Affection is pure. In its truest form, Affection is driven by Appreciation. When you really are grateful for a person and what they bring in your life you can't help but to show it. The more time you spend with a person and the more they keep up a good rep, then it's virtually impossible not to reciprocate all the nice treatment. You can't stop touching them, you can't stop play fighting with them. You do things to annoy them, just to get a rise out of them. You live to put smile on their face. It's how you say thank you for being good to me. Thank you for being you.